I just got back from the doctors with having an ultrasound done. I am 4 weeks 3 days pregnant. I have not told him yet because he does not want a third child. We have a son who is 5 and a daughter who is 2 1/2. He has always said that he does not want any more children and we have one of each and they are healthy and we don't have enough money, he is to old (38) me (36). I agreed to disagree with him and put away the crib, baby stuff, had a tag sale and sold alot of stuff but in the back of my head I always have wanted one more. I just did not feel complete yet. So here I am now pregnant and he doesn't have a clue and I have no clue how to tell him and have him not want to divorce me, have me get an abortion, or not treat the baby the same as he does his other 2. HELP!!!

Hi, I came across your posting last night and my heart really goes out to you. I have been reading and participation in a forum for a woman who recently went through and very simalar situation. I think It would help you tremendously to read through all the postings that went out to her.  Its such a heartwrenching and painful thing you are facing, you are not alone. I hope you find comfort in this forum, The easiest way I figured you could find it is to type in lthe womans screen name in the search feild her screen name is blueaquaqueen. then Just scroll down through her subjucts and click on the one called My husband would rather I abort my third child then have it. I wish you luck. God bless!

I dont know your husband but some men would not one another baby but if faced with that fact couldnt help but want them and still love their wife.  There are many men and husbands who may need to cool down from the thought of it but you do have a bit of time for him to adjust to the idea and if he seems very upset and mad at first hopefully over the next month or so it will get better and he will see this as the blessing it is.  good luck to you and your family.

sue