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Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

Last post 03-13-2008 9:38 AM by EileenD. 8 replies.
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  • 03-03-2008 11:46 AM

    Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    i am 17 and this Decenber will be two years that my brother has been gone. His birthday was october 18th and my due date is the 19th. My fiance and i have talked it over and he has no problem with us naming it after my brother if its a boy. My brother was the best man i ever knew. My mother loves this idea because she knows how much my brother meant to me. But my fathers side of the family protests this. They have told me that they will not call him by his name and keep telling me that if he's a delinquent, he'll ruin my brothers good name. I feel like, if i do have o boy, that the dates are jus too close for it to just be chance. Both my fiance and i were told that it'd be a one in a million chance if either of us ever had children. should i go agianst most my family, or stick to my guns?

  • 03-03-2008 12:24 PM In reply to

    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

     He was your brother and obviously meant the world to you. For your family to not support you is a terrible thing to do. This is your way of honoring him and I think it is a great thing to do .  I bet your brother would absolutely love the idea! Stick to your guns! If you feel its right then go for it, it is your child not theirs.

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  • 03-03-2008 4:26 PM In reply to

    • Lissa06
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    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

     Since your brother meant the world to you I would go ahead and name the baby after him. It's wrong for part of your family to turn against you. I mean it's a baby. I wish you the best of luck!

  • 03-03-2008 5:59 PM In reply to

    • mom_3
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    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    I named my son after my deceased dad. 

    For your dad's family to say that if your son is a delinquent is offensive.  That was wrong of them to be so unsupportive and immature about the issue.  They're prejudging your son before they even meet him.  I would definitely go with my gut and name your child whatever name you wish.  You are carrying this child for 40 weeks.  You are the one who's going to deliver this child.  Your dad's family aren't doing those things.  If their comments and feelings bother you, sit them down and tell them that your baby is yours.  You have the right to name your child what you choose.   You should call these family members on it.  Sometimes people pipe down when you put them on the spot and stand up for what you believe.  Good luck with your pregnancy.  I'm sure your brother would be honored to share his name with your son.  He's probably smiling from ear to ear to know how much you loved him, not to mention honored that you would name your child after him.  Even if you have a girl, you could name her a variation of his name.

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  • 03-03-2008 8:28 PM In reply to

    • Brenna
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    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    I'm with everyone else on this.  It is your child and your decision on how to name him.  If family members don't like it, then they can call him his middle name. 

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  • 03-04-2008 5:05 PM In reply to

    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    He was your brother and I'm sure that you knew him better than your father's family. It is an honor to name your child after a relative, dead or alive, in any culture. I would be really angry if anyone, let alone my family implied that my unborn child would be anything other than a gift from God. Go with your gut, it sounds like at least you have a supportive mom.

  • 03-04-2008 5:14 PM In reply to

    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    I'm with everyone else. Go with your gut. No matter what people are going to have an opinion on what you should name your child. I think at seventeen it can be hard to stand your ground but you are having a child, right now you will grow more then you ever thought possible and one of the ways you will grow is learning how to seperate your feelings from your families. I wish you the best.

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  • 03-12-2008 1:49 PM In reply to

    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    I think it's wonderful to name your child after someone you loved so much. My husbands grandfather passed away last July and if we have a boy his middle name will be Donald after my husbands grandfather. Go with what you feel in your heart. Your family will hopefully understand and come around.

  • 03-13-2008 9:38 AM In reply to

    Re: Naming Children after deceased relatives. . . is it ok?

    You know what, It's your child, and if they don't like it, to bad.  you will be honoring your brothers memory.  They cannot anticipate how your child will turn out. How dare them!!! You honor your brothers memory along with your love for your brother.  Teach your child about how wonderful his uncle was, and do not allow them place a burden and responsibility to his name with their issues and fears.  They need to move on and celebrate his life just like you are doing. I think you are doing a wonderful thing.  Obviously at seventeen you are more of an adult than they are and know much more about love and honor, share that with your child, stand your ground.  This is YOUR child not theirs.  Remind them of that.  If they do not see that your child is honoring your brothers memory, thats their problem, but obviously to me they are not interested in honoring his memory.  Its their thing, don't make it yours.  They will come around. Don't worry about them.  You do what you want and enjoy your pregnancy and all that goes with it.  Good Luck.  Let us know how it goes.

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