I have several issues ,so I will just start from the beggining. I am 21 years old and 27 weeks pregnant. I met the father of my child in November of last year. Everything moved very fast in the beggining. I moved with him three weeks after knowing him and 2 months later I was pregnant. At first he was very happy about the pregnancy, but that didn't last long. When I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant he said he didn't want anything to do with me or the baby. About a week or two ago he called me and said he wanted back in my life ,but he didn't want to be in a relationship with me. He said that might change once the baby is born. Now that he is back he wants to make all the descisions like naming her and has tried to tell me that I can not date once the baby is born. I want to confront him on these, but I do not want to chase him away again, because when are together everything is great and now it seems like he is making an effort towards being in my life and her life. What should I do? If you any questions about something I might have forgotten feel free to ask.

Jessica

Jessica,

You didn't mention how old your ex-boyfriend is but he sounds very young and immature.  If you believe he'll be a good influence on your daughter you need to have an honest conversation with him about his relationship with you and your expectations of him as a contributing parent to raising your daughter.  And until he commits to having a committed relationship with you as a parent he shouldn't be allowed to "make all the decisions"  - his decisions right now should be about how to be a good father which should include how to help support you during your pregnancy and how to support you and baby once your daughter is born.  Determining her name and telling you not to date aren't as critical as getting you to doctors appointments, preparing you for labor, making sure your baby has a nursery set up in your home, making sure you have health insurance, and making sure you have a support team once you and baby come home.

If you believe he's ready to run if you ask him about his committment to the baby you need to have the conversation NOW so you can make plans without him.

 Good Luck! 

In reguards to the question of his age. He is 35 years old. Thanks for the advice.